Dear Families,
http://www.janetlansbury.com/2009/10/securing-boundaries-no-walk-in-the-park/
The above link was sent to me by a good friend, a fellow teacher, and a parent working to find the right balance at home. It is a beautiful article that comes from RIE (Resources for Infant Educarers) in Los Angeles. At first it may seem the article recommends parents to be draconian, but at the end, we see a child saying she hopes a parent will be in control.
In the fall, I gave a talk on the Confident Captain, Zen Captain. Our children want to know that we know where the ship is going; we can be both strong and kind. Our sailors feel much more comfortable when they sense the captain knows the destination. The article provides an analogy of driving over a bridge: it would be disturbing if there were no guard rails. I've used another metaphor. Imagine you are blind, and you live in a house. You gain great security from knowing where all the furniture is. Imagine, then, what it would be like if furniture is constantly moved. This is what it may be like for a young child if we are inconsistent with our boundaries. Our children want us to be confident captains of the ship. We can also be aware and sensitive Zen captains.
With warmth and light,
William Geoffrey Dolde
http://www.janetlansbury.com/2009/10/securing-boundaries-no-walk-in-the-park/
The above link was sent to me by a good friend, a fellow teacher, and a parent working to find the right balance at home. It is a beautiful article that comes from RIE (Resources for Infant Educarers) in Los Angeles. At first it may seem the article recommends parents to be draconian, but at the end, we see a child saying she hopes a parent will be in control.
In the fall, I gave a talk on the Confident Captain, Zen Captain. Our children want to know that we know where the ship is going; we can be both strong and kind. Our sailors feel much more comfortable when they sense the captain knows the destination. The article provides an analogy of driving over a bridge: it would be disturbing if there were no guard rails. I've used another metaphor. Imagine you are blind, and you live in a house. You gain great security from knowing where all the furniture is. Imagine, then, what it would be like if furniture is constantly moved. This is what it may be like for a young child if we are inconsistent with our boundaries. Our children want us to be confident captains of the ship. We can also be aware and sensitive Zen captains.
With warmth and light,
William Geoffrey Dolde
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