Lantern Workshop Monday night

The sunlight fast is dwindling, my little lamp needs kindling.
Its beam shines far in darkest night,
Oh, lantern guide me with your light.

Celebrating Fall Festivals
A Parent Workshop on Lantern Walks
Presented by Cordula Hetland and Vanessa Kohlhaas

Monday, November 9th
7 – 9pm

As the days grow shorter, we must keep our inner light burning. Come join us in talking about how to celebrate this season of darkness with children through lantern walks. Participants will learn about lantern walks, sing lantern songs, and make a lantern to share with their family. This symbolic tradition brings home the deeper truth in the words of Siddhartha Gautama, the founder of Buddhism (563-483 B.C.) “There isn’t enough darkness in all the world to snuff out the light of one little candle.”

Whidbey Island Waldorf School
6335 Old Pietila Rd. in Clinton

Advanced registration required
Suggested donation: $5.00
Supplies to make your own lantern will be provided

For more information or to register:
Email: butterflygarden@gmail.com
Or call: 360-221-2270

Option for Parent & Teacher Conferences

Dear Families,

Outside the Butterfly classroom, I have posted Thursday morning parent & teacher conference times. While we do not expect parent & child families to sign up for a conference, I want to offer this possibility for you. It would be a chance for me to answer any questions about Waldorf education, my classes, or whatever you would want to talk about without the possible interruptions of class as usual.

The healthy social life is found
When, in the mirror of each human soul,
The entire community finds its reflection,
And when, in the community,
The virtue of each one is living.

Rudolf Steiner—The Social Motto

Elsewhere Steiner wrote that a social group can be at its healthiest and most effective when the work of the individual serves the needs of the group and when the needs of the individual are served by the work of the group. As I reflect upon the manner in which I teach parent & child classes and the changes I have made to my format over the years, I see that I strive to get closer and closer to this ideal in which children can bring their love of work into serving the class as a whole. As such, craft projects that led to individual objects to take home (not that there is anything wrong with this) tended to yield to cooking and cleaning projects in which the whole group could serve the individual or the individual could serve the whole group (all, of course, infused with the possibility of child-directed free play with a background of song and rhyme). Andrea Gambardella writes of this combination of work and play in "Sun and Rain." As children move through their first six years, they want to develop their senses of autonomy, initiative, and industry, and I have found that allowing them to be involved as much as possible in adult work from start to finish (with obvious limitations for safety--and respect for comfort levels of different families; some are quite willing to have a young child use and learn from a sharp and effective knife for cutting vegetables; others will want to wait until an older age feels just right; both are valid positions) has been a way to cultivate hearty and strong individuals and classes.

With warmth and light,

William Geoffrey Dolde

More About Crayons

Dear Families,

Last Friday as we began work on our lanterns, I talked a bit about the crayons we were using. When I began as an assistant teacher in 1997, early childhood teachers in Waldorf Classrooms were beginning to take a hard look at the use of block crayons in early childhood--up to that point they seemed a natural gift for early childhood classrooms: they did not break; no paper to be removed; they seemed to encourage exploration and divergent artistic thinking rather than outlining and perhaps more convergent form making. Remedial teachers such as Ingun Schneider were asking kindergarten teachers to take a second look the the use of thick, block crayons. As Schneider points out in her article on supporting the development of the hand, our arms and shoulders become very tense when we hold a block crayon; they are noticeably less tense when holding a stick crayon and pencil. Remedial teachers began to wonder if the overuse of block crayons in kindergarten classes were interfering with a smooth and natural process of developing pencil grip and learning to write. I remember my lead teacher packing away all the block crayons and purchasing stick crayons to use exclusively.

Not long after this I was fortunate to take a week of classes with Ingun Schneider as part of my training to become a lead teacher, and for me the use of stick crayons for very young children (including toddlers) made a lot of sense. As with any educational system, there are different opinions and streams, and I respect colleagues who make more frequent use of block crayons; indeed, I thought they would be more appropriate for filling the page with color as in painting to make our lanterns. That being said, one preference I have for stick crayons (or even sturdy colored pencils) for young children is that they help dispel the illusion that in a Waldorf early childhood setting everything needs to be soft and fuzzy: there are places for lines and angles as in the crosses and scribbles young children make as they work with crayons; and there is space for lines and hard spaces and toddlers work through conflicts as we have read in recent articles on toddler conflicts.

Schneider's article provides helpful insights into how we can help our children develop; she begins with infancy and early toddlerhood. If we can allow our children opportunities to move, climb, roll, crawl, fall, and tumble, we allow them the chance to form the foundations for fine motor development in future years.

With warmth and light,

William Geoffrey Dolde

One more preview/bonus class this Thursday

Dear Current and Potential Families,

After our festive class last Thursday, we will have an additional extra class this Thursday from 9 to 11am. We will also have Rosebud class as usual this coming Friday morning (yes, you can come two days in a row if you wish). Thank you for bringing vegetables to enhance the soup.

With warmth and light,

William Geoffrey Dolde

Extra class Thursday, songs from the morning

Dear Families,

Here is a reminder: although school is closed on Friday, October 16, we will have an extra class open to current Rosebud and Dewdrop families and others on Thursday, October 15, from 9 to 11am. Please bring a vegetable for the soup if possible.

Here are lyrics to many of the songs I sing throughout the morning. I offer these not with the expectation that you have to sing these songs outside of class but so that you are able to offer them for your child as either of you feels inspired.

With warmth and light,

William Geoffrey Dolde

Bonus class next Thursday, October 15

Dear Families,

As you may know, the Whidbey Island Waldorf School will be closed on Friday, October 16. Because it seems a shame to interrupt our Rosebud class two weeks after the start of the session, next week we invite all current families to join us next Thursday from 9 to 11am for a mixed age parent & child class. This will be an extra class in addition to the regular session. Children birth to 3 and their caregivers who have not yet signed up for class are also welcome next Thursday as a chance to sample our program or reconnect with friends. As always, please bring a vegetable for soup if possible.

In our kindergarten and nursery classes, we have distributed an article about support toddlers in conflict. I have made copies for parent & child families (this article is not yet available on line) and will leave them outside the Butterfly Room. For people reading this blog from afar, you may find a similar article by the same author in this newsletter from Sophia's Hearth in Keene, NH.

With warmth and light,

William Geoffrey Dolde

Parent Talk, Wednesday, October 7, 5pm

Dear Dewdrop and Rosebud Families and Community Members,

On Wednesday, October 7, we invite all adults to a parenting lecture in the Butterfly Classroom from 5 to 6pm. Although the talk is part of our parent & child program, the topic may interest parents of children of all ages. Contact William Dolde with questions.

"Let's Try That Again"
Ostensibly Crazy Things to Say to Children that Really Work

(This talk was formerly known as Strunk and White speak to children)

Our children offer us many opportunities to express ourselves in challenging situations (what to say to a child licking the table, to a child who insists on picking up every piece of garbage in the street, to a child who says yuck to the dinner you spent 12 hours creating), and we can find ourselves overwhelmed with the plethora of how-to-parent books that offer us conflicting advice (whether choices are good for children or choices paralyze children and make them feel insecure; whether praise helps build self-esteem or global praise such as "good girl" or "you are so smart" make children less willing to exert effort and learn). With humor and humility, William Dolde will attempt to work through the advice from experts to distill principles of speaking to children that can be helpful in many situations.

Parents may wish to read a couple of pieces by William in advance: 1) "Speaking to a Toddler," and 2) "Beyond Personal."

William will strive to resist the temptation to create an orthodox list of proper and improper things to say. At the same time, in his examples, it remains possible that some of his examples may strike a nerve. He may possibly make fun of national lecturers who are much more successful than him. He will ask lecture participants to avoid venturing forth to correct spouses and colleagues. He will do his best to avoid insulting people (but his best might not be good enough).

Interested parents may also wish to read the following two articles on the inverse power of praise. This first offers a parent's perspective. This second article is by Professor Carol Dweck (the researcher quoted in the first article).